The key things to remember to get you through 2016 smoothly!
1. Voicing your opinions and judgements of other people will get you nowhere
Stop behaving like you’re still in school
because you’re not a child anymore; you have a filter. Try to understand where
people are coming from and appreciate that everyone is different. Slating
people on the internet is especially unnecessary and this goes for your peers as
well as those in the public eye. If someone said something negative about your
personality or the way you dressed it would hurt you, right? If the answer is
yes then that’s all the reason you need to stop doing the same to others.
2. Procrastination is your enemy
Admit it, you put things off until days before a deadline. We all do at some stage, then wonder why we’re so stressed all of a sudden. I’ll hold my hand up right now and say that I do exactly that with almost every piece of work I have, but think about how good you feel once you’ve completed a task! You can cross one more thing off your to-do list and focus the remaining time on something else. Why would you want to procrastinate? I realise that this is a huge issue for some people, and it can often be hard to find the motivation but sometimes you just have to sit down and do it. Try using the knowledge that you’ll feel better afterwards as your motivation.
3. There is no point in trying to force
friendships
It can be so so difficult to abandon a friendship that you’ve worked tirelessly to maintain but that’s just it, you shouldn’t have to work hard! If a friendship is really worth keeping it will still be there even if you don’t talk to someone for months. Friendships should be seemingly effortless so don’t waste your time if the other person doesn’t try at all. Leaving people behind does not make you a bad person, it just means that you’ve grown and moved on.
It can be so so difficult to abandon a friendship that you’ve worked tirelessly to maintain but that’s just it, you shouldn’t have to work hard! If a friendship is really worth keeping it will still be there even if you don’t talk to someone for months. Friendships should be seemingly effortless so don’t waste your time if the other person doesn’t try at all. Leaving people behind does not make you a bad person, it just means that you’ve grown and moved on.
4. Who you choose to be around will make a
difference
Don’t surround yourself with people who don’t make you a better person. You need a support system, people you can rely on to make you feel good about yourself and people you enjoy being around. Trust is also key, you shouldn’t be spending half of your time worrying about whether your friends are talking about you behind your back or worrying that they don’t like you as much as you like them. Take note of who really matters to you and spend as much time with them as you can.
Don’t surround yourself with people who don’t make you a better person. You need a support system, people you can rely on to make you feel good about yourself and people you enjoy being around. Trust is also key, you shouldn’t be spending half of your time worrying about whether your friends are talking about you behind your back or worrying that they don’t like you as much as you like them. Take note of who really matters to you and spend as much time with them as you can.
5. Your opinion of yourself is the only one
that matters
Literally nobody else’s opinion matters. Not your friend’s, not your family’s and not even your significant other’s. If you are comfortable and confident within yourself, then others will begin to appreciate and love you for who you are. It can be so hard, especially when you’re growing up, to think that you have to dress, act or think a certain way but you really don’t. This doesn’t mean it’s okay to be a bad person, it just means that you shouldn’t have to change yourself to fit in with other people’s expectations of you.
Literally nobody else’s opinion matters. Not your friend’s, not your family’s and not even your significant other’s. If you are comfortable and confident within yourself, then others will begin to appreciate and love you for who you are. It can be so hard, especially when you’re growing up, to think that you have to dress, act or think a certain way but you really don’t. This doesn’t mean it’s okay to be a bad person, it just means that you shouldn’t have to change yourself to fit in with other people’s expectations of you.
6. You don’t have to be productive every single day
If you feel yourself reaching breaking point, stop. It is not worth you getting worked up to the point where you hit a mental block and can’t continue with what you need to do. Take some time out for yourself to do what you want to do not what you have to do. The world is not going to end just because you spend a day in bed binge-watching Grey’s Anatomy. This doesn’t mean procrastinate for days at a time, but don’t be afraid to relax and definitely don’t let yourself feel guilty if you don’t complete every single thing on your to-do list.
7. You still have time
You don’t need to have everything figured out. No matter what stage of your life you’re at, you still have time to change or improve the aspects you don’t like. Sure, sometimes money can be an obstacle but you can still alter small things that can make a significant difference. Remember that you aren’t always going to be at the same stage in life as other people your age. I know so many people who complain that people their age are getting engaged or have full time jobs but as long as you’re comfortable where you’re at, it doesn’t matter. Obviously sometimes we’re all eager to move on to the next stage but it will happen when the time is right, you can’t force things.
8. Stick to your morals
As an eighteen year old girl, it can be hard to stick to everything that seven year old me wanted for myself. Society constantly tries to manipulate people into doing what the majority does but if you don’t want to go out drinking, behave a certain way or go down a certain path in life then don’t. If in years to come you can look back on the way you did things and be proud, then surely that counts for something. Do not let your peers ridicule you because you don’t want to do things.
9. You are allowed to say ‘no’
‘No’ should not be a word you shy away from. In fact, it should be encouraged. Say no to toxic people. Say no to opportunities that you aren’t interested in. Say no to jobs that you know you won’t be happy in. Use this word carefully and confidently, you have as much right as anybody else.
10. Not everyone is going to like you
This is perhaps the hardest thing to remember for people who just want to get along with everybody. You often find yourself trying your best to strike up a friendship with someone and wondering why they aren’t interested. Not everyone is the same as you or agrees with you and that’s okay; they don’t owe you an explanation. Don’t try too hard to fit in. Concentrate on those closest to you and on strengthening your existing relationships.
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